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How to Find the Right ADHD Coach for You

Following on last month’s Crusher blog on the benefits of ADHD coaching, figured a good next step was to drill down a bit into just how to pick the right coach or coaching program for YOU. After all, there are said to be some 1,000 ADHD coaches in the US and Canada alone, any of whom could potentially work with you locally or remotely. (I was with a whole bunch of the top coaches on the planet last week at the ACO conference where I presented some coaching best practices that I call “Practical Zen Brain Hacks” — more on those powerful alternative ADHD solutions soon.)

Remind Me. Why Is ADHD Coaching a Good Idea?

If you’re serious about pursuing alternative strategies to crush your ADD so that it’s no longer running your life; if you really want to better understand the behaviors that have held you back; if you want to be more effective at work or school or parenting or just in everyday life…then an ADHD coach is worth at least looking into.

Ultimately, the right coach can:

  1. Help you create positive new habits
  2. Help you discover various paths toward success, and…
  3. Be there as an accountability buddy

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OK, I’m Curious. What’s Next?

Do some searching for qualified ADD coaches online. There are a bunch of directories to be found with a simple search for, um, ‘ADHD coach directory’. But the shortcut is to look to trusted organizations like…

ADDCA (ADD Coach Academy)
ACO (ADHD Coaches Organization)
ADDA (Attention Deficit Disorder Association)

Check out all of them. Also, check out these Crusher-recommended coaches. They’re great coaches from many states across the country – but remember that coaches can work with you from anywhere on the planet.

Scour a couple of these directories to get a sense of the range of offerings. You’ll find some coaches specialize – for instance, in students, or teens, or parents/families, or executives, etc. Of course make note of their credentials, as some are more seasoned than others (although a newly minted coach could end up being perfect for you, so don’t let that be the only criterion). Then identify a few that “speak to you” – you like their tone, approach, etc.

OK, I’m Ready to “Interview” a Few

Once you’ve identified a handful you think you might like, give them a call or shoot an email with some questions, like…

  • What’s your relationship to ADHD and what got you into coaching?
  • How many clients do you currently work with?
  • How will we work together (e.g., frequency and method of sessions)?
  • How will we define progress or success?
  • What is your overall coaching philosophy?

Don’t make a commitment right then and there – make sure you’ve spoken to all of your short-listers, then marinate on it for a day or two. As you do, consider the pricing for each coach in the context of the comfort- and confidence-level you have after your ‘interviews’. This is important, because you don’t want to nickel-and-dime such an important decision. The results you get from the right coaching relationship will easily outweigh the dollar costs of the sessions.

Indeed, a great coaching relationship can help you grow, mitigate miseries and even develop your ADHD gifts. Make it happen — take action if you’re so inclined!

-Alan

P.S. — If the timing or funding isn’t in place for a coach right now, consider a “virtual coach” like ADD Crusher™ Videos and Tools — they’re endorsed by the top coaches around the world and many use our tools in their coaching practice. I kid you not. -ab

P.P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. It’s a library of over 100 videos teaching hacks and strategies that “unleash the power of your unique brain” to beat procrastination, get prioritized and take control of your time. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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The Benefits of Coaching as ADHD Alternative Treatment

Break Through Barriers

In just a few days, I’ll be heading to Phoenix to speak at the ADHD Coaches Organization conference — my third year in a row, and it’s always a great gathering. Which brings me to the topic of ADHD coaching: In my series of #CrusherTips on Twitter, I recently tweeted, “Hire an #ADHD coach. Even if 4 a few sessions, u can make huge strides,” and got quite a few re-tweets on it. I think a lot of ADHD adults would LOVE to try a coach but, as I’ll outline in a moment, barriers get in their way. I’ll help crush those barriers, but first let’s outline what ADHD coaching is all about, and why it’s more and more mainstream for those seeking alternative ADHD treatments.

 

What’s It All About, Coachie?

You’ve no doubt heard of career coaching, executive coaching and maybe even life coaching. Why would an executive need coaching? Why would anyone need coaching on “life”? Well, for one, neither careers nor specific jobs nor life come with an instructional textbook, yet the more you know about the possibilities in your career/job/life, the more likely you can be more successful and fulfilled.

But secondly, even if you had the textbook (i.e., a pretty good fix on what you want and how to get it), think about the difference between just reading a college textbook, vs. having a star professor walk you through it. The combination of expertise, objectivity and partnership from that third party can be the difference between doing so-so…and totally CRUSHING IT.

ADHD coaching is similar to other coaching branches, in that…

  • It’s based on a partnership between you and your coach…
  • Coaching sessions might focus on a particular issue or problem you’re having, and…
  • The coach will offer objective insights and perhaps a range of different approaches to tackle the problem.

Ultimately, a good coach can help you create positive new habits, help you discover various paths toward success, and be there as an accountability buddy.

 

If It’s a Great ADD Alternative Remedy, Why Isn’t Everybody Doing It?

Several reasons. And not necessarily valid ones. Here are five Barriers to ADHD Coaching – each one CRUSHED:

  1. General Awareness: “I wasn’t aware there was such a thing as an ADHD coach.” See above. CRUSHED.
  2. Qualified Awareness: “I wasn’t aware of the benefits of ADHD coaching.” See above. El CRUSHISIMO.
  3. D.I.Y. Syndrome: “I know about ADHD coaching and the supposed benefits – but I can do this myself.” Ya, how’s that workin’ so far? OK, even if you’re in pretty good stead, don’t you want to kick life into a higher gear? Yours to CRUSH.
  4. Cost: “It’s probably too expensive.” OK, there’s definitely bucks involved, but coaches span a wide range of fee levels — and there’s always group coaching as a lower-cost alternative. Le CRUSHETTE.
  5. Procrastination: “I’m in, baby!! But, um, just haven’t gotten around to reaching out to a coach yet. But I will, soon!” See below! And put it on auto-CRUSH.

OK, I’ve done my job. Now you do yours. If so inclined, take action and hit this link to Crusher-recommended coaches. They’re all amazing coaches from many different states across the country – but know that coaches can work with you from anywhere on the planet.

And if you REALLY want to get serious, you can take a basic course about ADHD – any maybe embark on a path learn to be a coach yourself – at the ADD Coaches Academy.

When at the ACO conference, I’ll post about how to pick the best coach for you.

-Alan

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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The Risk-Taking Gene as Alternative ADHD Treatment

Having established in the last post that ADDers tend to possess the ADHD “risk-taking gene” – I suggested that there is a way to go beyond the inherent RISKS of having it (um, addiction, climbing high things, jumping off of high things, exceeding 160mph, etc.), to see its potential BENEFITS.

The ADHD Risk-Taking Gene in Creativity

The New York Times recently did a piece on Craig Venter, the guy who…

  • Decoded the human genome
  • Created the first synthetic organism
  • Charted a worldwide sailing trip during which he idendified more new species than anyone in history…
  • …and who is now plotting the creation of a man-made microscopic “bug” that will one day clean up oil spills, or one that “could swim in a pond and soak up sunlight and urinate automotive fuel”….or one “that could live in a factory and gobble exhaust and fart fresh air.”

How does he think up this stuff? As the Times continues, “He may not appear to be thinking about these things. He may not appear to be thinking at all. He may appear to be riding his motorcycle through the California mountains, cutting the inside corners so close his kneepads skim the pavement. This is how Venter thinks. He also enjoys thinking on the deck of his sailboat, halfway across the Pacific Ocean in a gale, and while snorkeling naked in the Sargasso Sea surrounded by Portuguese men-of-war. When Venter was growing up in San Francisco, he would ride his bicycle to the airport and race passenger jets down the runway. As a Navy corpsman in Vietnam, he spent leisurely afternoons tootling up the coast in a dinghy, under a hail of enemy fire.

“What’s strange about Venter is that this works — that the clarity he finds when he is hurtling through the sea and the sky, the dreams he summons, the fantasies he concocts in his most unhinged moments of excess actually have a way of coming true.”

This is the risk-taking gene in ACTION!! You see, Venter understands how taking risk – injecting stimulation into his thinking sessions – opens the window to creativity. It’s a form of meditation – much like the meditative state I enter when doing 160mph on a motorcyle (on a race track, of course – NEVER on the street, which is risk of the very stupid kind).

The Risk-Taking Gene in Business

ADHD TakeARisk1We’ve all heard the stats about entrepreneurs being disproportionately represented by our ADHD brethren (and sistren, if that’s a word). Surely, this has a lot to do with our disdain for rigid career paths that begin in a cubicle and end in a bigger cubicle with maybe a window. And certainly has to do with our hyperactive mind’s desire to always be trying something new, exciting, even scary. But it’s also that genetic code that says, “Hey, I’m willing to sell all my crap and move to Montana to start an organic horse radish farm…or build a freakin’ race track…or both!” All great entrepreneurs possess the risk-taking gene – or they wouldn’t be entrepreneurs…they’d be kickin’ back in their cubicle.

The Risk-Taking Gene as Alternative ADHD Treatment

In ADD Crusher™ Video I, I teach the power of two “nagging desires” – to keep the fires of forward movement burning – a “negative nag” and a “positive nag”. The negative nag can be the collection of stupid things you’ve done (many, thanks to your risk-taking gene) and maintaining a healthy regret to ensure you don’t dope off again. Your positive nag might be your strong desire to have independence – career, financial, personal, or otherwise – and your risk-taking gene can help carry you along that path, keeping you from weaseling out of tough decisions or following the path of least resistance. In this sense, the gene can be a form of alternative ADHD treatment!

Of course, this is not to say that we should be running around taking unnecessary risks. It is simply to say that there are impulses and tendencies we have that don’t ALWAYS have to be viewed negatively. Listen to your ADD DNA. Take some smart risks…and reap the rewards.

To Risk is to Crush…

– Alan

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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Risk-Taking, Stimulation and ADHD

We ADDers are said to possess the “risk-taking gene” – that bit of DNA that makes us chase stimulation beyond what would normally satisfy non-ADDers.

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In her book, Buzz: A Year of Paying Attention, author Katherine Ellison tracks her family history back to immigrants who couldn’t help but seek the new – despite many risks along the way – and leave their less hyperactive cousins back in the Old Country. She notes that America in particular has a disproportionate number of people with this let’s-pick-up-and-move-again gene.

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America’s Unique Place in the ADD / ADHD World

We are indeed a nation of immigrants who were A) antsy as hell in their home countries and B) willing to risk all to come to a new continent. Now, I’m not saying that we’re a land of ADDers, but you do have to ask yourself…

  • Why IS America so full of risk-takers?
  • Why ARE we the creators of Jazz and Rock n’ Roll – the two most ADD-infused musical forms that ever were?
  • Why were WE the ones to impulsively venture to the moon?
  • Why do we seem to own so many land speed records? Is it just because we boast the Bonneville Salt Flats? I don’t think so.

For ADDers, Risk Can Bite…and Bestow

It’s in our genes. And this is why I find myself at motorcycle race tracks so often, along with a whole bunch of other ADDers. We love the noise, the speed, the risk – and most of us love it not just from the grandstands, but from the seat of a bike…on the racetrack.

Of course, our risk-taking gene is what gets us into crashes (as my 8-inch titanium plate with seven screws holding my shoulder together will attest) and plenty of other trouble. But next post, I’ll go out on a limb and propose how we ADDers can put that gene to work for us.

Stay Risky, My Friends!

-Alan

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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3 Special Challenges ADHD Women and Girls Face

Girls-and-Women-ADHDA while back I wrote a blog on the sad lack of ADHD awareness both around the world and even here in the U.S. The lack of awareness obviously makes things worse for ADD sufferers and those around them. But I failed to capture in that blog a major segment of society that gets a triple-whammy from low awareness: girls and women. Let me explain why it’s a three-fer…

Whammy #1: General Lack of Awareness and Diagnosis

We are – or should be – aware of the many costs of general ADHD ignorance. Higher medical costs, criminal system costs (ADHD women AND men are very disproportionately represented among prison populations, which I blogged about last March), lost business productivity, etc. Not to mention the personal misery and underachievement that accompany un-diagnosed and un-treated ADD/ADHD. That’s a whammy for both genders. But…

Whammy #2: The Under-Diagnosis of Girls vs Boys

Even in advanced Western nations where we’re supposedly enlightened about ADHD, the stereotype of the ADD kid as a bouncing-off-the-walls boy is the dominant perception. Girls, less likely to be of the hyperactive type, are more likely to fall through the cracks in their critical school years. It’s also surmised that girls try harder at school and may have better grades, further masking their condition.

As a result, boys are diagnosed between three and nine times as much as girls. Some research suggests that even when teachers recognize symptoms of ADHD in girls, it doesn’t get reported as much as for boys. So as awful as under-diagnosis is for everyone, it’s whacking our daughters and sisters harder.

Whammy #3: The Uniquely Ugly Outcomes for Girls and Women

Being a male who just barely avoided major bodily harm, dodged the long arm of the law on many occasions and probably cheated death once or twice, I know first hand the uglier possibilites of undiagnosed ADD. For everyone, it’s associated with lower levels of education, slower career advancement, more smoking and alcohol/substance abuse, etc. But here comes the icing on the triple-whammy cake (if you can call it icing): ADHD women and girls face some uniquely ugly statistics that men don’t face…

  • Unplanned pregnancy: Impulsive ADHD women are seven times more likely to become pregnant
  • A high incidence of eating disorders and obesity
  • With a higher divorce rate among ADHD adults, women usually end up on the shorter end of the economic stick when that happens – and typically maintain single-parent care of the affected kids.

It’s Getting (a Little) Better, Thanks to Some Champions

ADD writer/blogger Zoë Kessler has done a great service to her gender by often blogging and vlogging on this issue (and I thank her for some of the stats reported above). But one woman, Dr. Patricia Quinn, has made a laser-focused mission of helping girls and women – with a range of websites, books and support organizations I encourage you to explore by Googling her name. Or, to quickly learn more about girls’/women’s issues, a great primer is her archived interview on Attention Talk Radio back in December 2011. Give it a listen, and give some thought to how we can help undo this triple injustice to our mothers, sisters and daughters…and all AHDH women.

-Alan

PS – and speaking of women, wanted to share this nice endorsement from a prominent coach who helps a lot of ADHD women…”Alan Brown’s ADD Crusher videos are comprised of practical strategies to overcome the day-to-day impairments of ADHD that get in the way of success.  He speaks from the heart and experience since he, too, has ADHD.  Do you need another way to compete with your ADHD symptoms?  Go to his site and try his videos!”  – Karen K Lowry, RN, MSN, ADHD Coach, AAC

P.P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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Finding Alternative ADHD Treatment in Our Dark Past

I was interviewed a while back by Jeff Copper on Attention Talk Radio. They’ve on occasion done interviews with various folks called “behind the scenes” – a sort of “unplugged” version of the show where ADHD personalities can let loose with tales of the darker/funnier side of their ADD.

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My Undiagnosed ADHD Past: The G-Rated Version

I love telling stories about my dark years – mainly the years in my 20’s when I had no idea what ADHD was, let alone that I was an epic ADDer. A lot of the stories are beyond “G”-rating, but even the ugliest episodes are worth remembering and retelling, because they shed light on the nature of ADHD and inspire me NOT to revisit those days or those behaviors (more about that in a moment).

Some highlights of my undiagnosed, untreated adult ADHD, much of which will likely sound familiar to many of you:

  • Banged up or totaled very car I ever got my hands on, including at least 2 dents on roofs (that I can remember). How do you dent a roof?? Well, flipping it over is one way, but there are others — trust me, I know.
  • When you crack up 8 motorcycles, you’re lucky to be alive – though most of those were on a race track, which is way safer than on the street believe it or not. I crashed one just a few weeks ago!
  • Alcohol was my escape – and my constant companion.
  • Drugs were my self-medication (though I didn’t realize it at the time).
  • Crime (most minor, a few major ones) for which I never got caught, amazingly.

I still think I’m on the verge of getting caught for stuff I did, or somehow in trouble. I see a cop car, and I think he’s looking right at me and knows every bad thing I’ve done! And on some level or another, nearly ALL adult ADDers – particularly those who went undiagnosed for a long time – have this kind of baggage. But, there are lessons to be drawn from our darker days…

Lessons from Dark Days Can Support Alternative ADHD Treatment Efforts

As I’ve said in this space many times, there are forms of alternative ADHD treatment in not only hard-fought changes to life habits, but also in simple acts and even simple thoughts and keener awareness. Here are lessons from my past that likely mirror some that any previously undiagnosed ADHD adult might have:

  1. Understand your past . Know why you did what you did. For instance, I did drugs because I was self-medicating; I committed crimes because of stimulation-seeking and willingness to do stupid things for peer approval.
  2. Come to terms with it . Don’t regret it – see it as part of the “quilt” that makes up your interesting life history. You’re your stories!
  3. Use the painful memories as forward-moving fuel . This is what I call a Negative Nag, which can combine with a Positive Nag to provide consistently strong MOTIVATION (Way 2 in Video I).
  4. Know that we ADDers have the risk-taking, stimulation-seeking gene – and most importantly, see the difference between stupid risk-taking and worthy risk-taking.

There’s one more section of this blog – the ADHD strategies I developed to emerge from the darkness. But I’m running a bit long, so I’ll pick up on those in a later blog (they’re of course the foundation of what’s taught in the ADD Crusher Videos, which you can preview here.

And By the Way…

Whether you’re a regular Attention Talk Radio listener or not, I announced on the show a special discount code for ATR listeners: ATR15. If you’re reading it here, you’re entitled to use it for 15% off any purchase at ADDCrusher.com. Go for it!!

-Alan

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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The Power of Awareness as Alternative ADHD Treatment

Crusher believes that ADHD is best crushed with a range of treatments and solutions – which can be medication(s), alternative ADHD treatmentsnatural remedies, diet and lifestyle changes, ADHD coaching, mindfulness, neurotherapy, etc., or some combination of all of these. If there is one thing I’ve learned battling this condition for the past 13 years, there is no one best alternative ADHD treatment for all.

In trying to get smarter on the whole megillah and perhaps learn of some emerging new adult ADHD treatment options, I listened to two archived Attention Talk Radio interviews with Dr. Russell Ramsay, a prominent psychologist at UPenn. While he and interviewer Jeff Copper covered the gamut of treatment options, one theme kept popping up in my ADD brain: the power of AWARENESS – and the realization that if you did nothing but improve your awareness of various realities, you’d be into at least 3rd gear in your crush-mobile.

ADHD Treatment STARTS with Correct Diagnosis

It occurred to me that the first thing that happens on the road to effective ADHD treatment is the not-so-bitty bit of awareness – that you have ADD/ADHD! What a life-changer THAT is, huh? Although, according to Ramsay, an often-overlooked issue is CORRECT diagnosis. Often, mis-diagnosis of ADHD stems from the patient instead (or also) suffering from panic attacks, depression, a life situation or additional condition that complicates the matter. “All that glitters is not gold – and all that’s inattentive is not ADHD,” as he says.

The Most Underestimated Alternative ADHD Treatment is AWARENESS

Beyond this big one, there are scores of additional areas of awareness that can power you forward. And as I thought of the range of these, it occurred to me that basic self-awareness plus a dash of knowledge could be the single most underestimated form of ADHD treatment for us adults with ADD. Let’s dig in…

  • Start with awareness of ADD/ADHD’s inner workings, its nature, co-morbidities, etc. The more you understand it, but more you can crush it.
  • Awareness of the options available to you in terms of treatment and resources. There are countless!
  • Awareness of what you’re lousy at and what you’re good at. (Check out the ATR interview with Wilma Fellman, which I recently blogged about.)
  • Awareness of why you did what you did in your past (see my recent interview on Attention Talk Radio). There are great lessons to be had from even the darkest ADHD past.

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Now, this modest blog post can’t possibly TEACH all the facets of awareness, but I’ll get some more mental wheels turning and further support the commanding importance of awareness as a powerful alternative ADHD treatment with some pointed questions…

  • Are you aware that what you put in your body could be screwing you up? Crusher talks about this in Video I Way 1 – cuz it’s so foundational!! (There’s a preview on YouTube.)
  • Are you aware that the constant, uncontrolled dialogue in your head is NOT a mandatory part of your existence – that you can quiet that thing down in order to power it up? Both Ramsay and Crusher™ videos (Way 3) address this powerful alternative ADHD treatment.
  • How aware are you of the reality of time? Sure, you know you’re always late, always under-estimate the amount of time required to finish something or to get somewhere, etc. But is your awareness at a level that you can compensate for it?
  • Are you keenly aware of the reasons for your procrastination? Having that knowledge can unlock the door to action (as taught in ADD Crusher™ Video II, Way 7).
  • I could go on, but I’m aware that a blog shouldn’t get much beyond 700 words…

But lastly, are you aware of the unlimited possibilities that become available to you when you make the effort – whether alone or with a coach – to gain more understanding about yourself, to form positive habits and to believe in yourself? Ah, there’s your icing in this cake of CRUSH!

-Alan

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

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For ADHD Peace of Mind Requires Peace of Place

In ADD Crusher™ Video I, Way 3, I talk about how to shut-up-a-you-mind – quieting down your brain to power it up (preview here). We ADDers need a quiet mind, which is more easily had in a quiet/clean space. Ya, peace of MIND is aided by peace of PLACE. And ADHD peace of mind is a powerful natural ADD remedy!

For ADDers, Visual Noise Equals Stress

The more stressed out we are, the more our ADHD is in charge. And we add to our stress with what we allow into our environments. Consider the sight of a cluttered desk. Or a cluttered room. The visual noise PLUS the ugly reminder of frustration and chronic non-finishing of things. Ain’t NO peace in that, my fellow tribespeople.

Creating a Place of Peace is Easy

558959_354544711258881_127053080674713_979303_79965852_nNO, you DON’T have to empty out the house. All you really need – at least to start – is ONE place of peace, where you can shut…up…your…mind. One small part of your home to de-clutter, keep visually quiet, and visit on occasion. One room or a corner of a room. Could even start with just your desk. Could even start….NOW!

Take a mental or actual tour of your entire home – whether a McMansion or studio apartment. Where might you create a place of peace? Need only clear out a space for little more than a comfy chair. Next time exhausted by mind-cluttering BS or a complex project, head there – if only for a sec. You’ll find renewed energy, if you allow your mind to…get…quiet.

Tricks for De-Cluttering

Four key tricks of the visual de-cluttering trade are…

1) If you haven’t used it in 6 months, it’s probably useless – trash or donate.

2) Get a clutter-busting buddy and give her AUTHORITY.

3) If alone, work in 20min spurts, then rest or switch tasks. Otherwise you’ll burn out.

4) If you can’t figure out what to do with stuff, cover it up or hide it in that room.

Throw something out today. Then, do the same thing tomorrow. If it has no legitimate, frequent, or strong sentimental function, throw the damn thing out. It’s liberating and eliminates stressful clutter. Stuff is usually ego-gratifying crap. “Ooh, I visited Florida/France! Check out my amazing Florida/France crap!”

Give stuff away every week. Take it down to the donation center and get a receipt to save you some money on your taxes. If you think about it, you’ll be putting useless stuff to work triple-time: saving you money, saving you space AND saving you stress.

Think about the relative mental peace you have when you are visually confronted by nothing more than a blue sky, or the surface of a lake. Make the surfaces you live with more like that. Peace, baby…yaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Here’s a bonus: A piercing perspective on “stuff”, via the late, great George Carlin. Note there are a couple S-bombs in here

-Alan

Oh, and be sure to share this so you’re not the only one with a gorgeously uncluttered home!

P.S.  If you haven’t yet heard of www.CrusherTV.com, I hope you’ll check it out. Each Monday night at 10pm we “air” another episode chock full of useful productivity tips and “brain hacks”, and our Guest Experts provide more great ideas. Tons of other benefits for members, including free group coaching sessions. Hope to “see” you there! ab

 

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Shut-Up-A-You-Mind: A Powerful Natural ADD Remedy

Creativity and problem-solving have a path, or window, into and out of your brain. That window is quietness of the mind. Hmmmm. Sound impossible for our ADHD tribe? It’s not.

Mental fatigue is caused far less by work than by worry, frustration and resentment, as Napoleon Hill once said. And creativity and problem-solving are locked out when the mind spins – especially on negatives. Today, Crusher outlines the benefits of what happens when you…Shut-up-a-you-mind.

Realities of the Noisy ADHD Brain

Here’s a fact: 90% of the chatter running through your brain – your thoughts – is useless BS. Seriously. If you stop and have an objective listen, you’ll find that your mind churns with fatiguing, often ego-based blather providing no value, no solutions. This recognition alone is a huge ADD crusher.

We waste most mental energy judging people and things. Even the seemingly innocuous kind – “Ick, those shoes!” “Geez that guy’s disproportionate.” “I’m prettier than her, right?” When you hear a judgment, shut it off. Make that a habit and you’ll free up gads of mental energy. A mind above judgment is an overwhelm-crusher.

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Shut It Up to Power It Up

Question: Which is easier – doing 30 push-ups at once, or doing 20, resting for, oh, 30 seconds, and then the final 10? It’s a no-brainer, right? Just that little break allows you to do 50% more push-ups with relative ease. And your mind works just like your muscles.

If you could quiet your mind for just 30 seconds – better yet, a minute or two — you’d feel reinvigorated, better able to take on a tough task. It’s like resting your brain muscle before lifting the mental weight again. And it’s easier than you think…

A Simple Form of Meditation as Natural ADD Remedy

A tranquil mind brings great power and focus. And a key is MEDITATION. No, not the kind where you moan, “auuummmmm” with a shaved head and unclipped toenails. Meditation in the sense of identifying mental BS – as described earlier — as it enters your mind, gently brushing it aside…and replacing it with some mental quietness. Indeed, tough tasks become candy when quiet focus is ours. Using this simplest version of meditation is a powerful natural ADD remedy. And the benefits will quickly accrue if you can practice it enough to make it a habit:

  • More focus when you need it.
  • More creativity and better problem-solving abilities.
  • Reduced stress and frustration (they disappear when your mind is quiet!).
  • More mental energy on-demand, as well as overall stamina.

Give it a try. Here’s a video snippet from Video I, Way 3. A future blog will share some more meditation tips and benefits. But you have to first promise that you’ll…Shut-up-a-you-mind!!

Yours in Mental Quietness,

-Alan

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Understand Negative Self-Talk for Natural ADHD Remedy

A while back I posted a multi-part series of Facebook entries entitled, Score Your Successes – which is based on what I teach in Way 9 of ADD Crusher™ Video II. This particular strategy is about…

  1. Understanding our skewed perspective on our ADHD ‘failures’
  2. Putting these ‘failures’ in healthier perspective
  3. Learning to acknowledge our successes – big and teeny, and…
  4. Keeping track of our ADD ups and downs so that they provide positive motivational fuel

Shortly thereafter I was listening to one of the archived shows at Attention Talk Radio and learned about a much deeper dimension to our ADDer habit of not giving ourselves credit for anything — and blaming ourselves for everything.

 

The Negative Self-Talk of ADHD

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It’s called negative self-talk, and host Jeff Copper interviewed Debra Burdick, LCSW and psychotherapist, about this topic in detail. In a nutshell, negative self-talk is the habit of talking to yourself in a way that reinforces the negative feelings you have about yourself and, ultimately, guides the things you do (not in a good way, of course).

We all do it – ADDer or not. But we ADHD sufferers of course tend to do it more than others. Think about it: We’ve been conditioned to feel we’re chronically wrong/out of line/problemsome/etc. For instance, here’s a beautifully painful exchange with a six-year-old patient Debra recounts:

6-yr-old boy: My new medication is working great!

Debra: How do you know it’s working?

6-yr-old boy: Cuz nobody yelled at me all day!

 

Better Awareness and Understanding Are a Natural ADHD Remedy!

As with so many areas of our adult ADHD, the more we understand it, the better able we are to accept it, deal with it and crush it. And I realized, listening to this interview, that negative self-talk is an area of particular opportunity for creating our own natural ADHD remedy through greater awareness and understanding. For instance, have you ever heard yourself say anything like…

  • “I’m not smart enough to get that promotion.”
  • “I don’t have what it takes to start my own business.”
  • “I didn’t deserve to win that award.”

 

Toplines from the ADHD Negative Self-Talk Interview

Now, I can’t do justice to all the information in the interview, but I’ll summarize a few key points…

  1. Become AWARE of your negative talk. (Confession: When I pull a bonehead move, which is usually trivial, inconsequential – I replay what I was often told as a kid and yell at myself, “You @#$%$ dummy!”) Wow, gotta cut that out!
  2. Identify the various types of of negative talk you engage in most (there are several, as described by Dr. Daniel Amen, who calls them “species”).
  3. Understand that negative thoughts are most often inaccurate, and always self-defeating.
  4. Pay more attention to your successes (as described in Video II, Way 9). We ADHD adults/kids tend to “filter out” successes in our thoughts and recollections – leaving only the ‘failures’.

Bottom line, know that your ability to move forward powerfully has a helluva lot to do with how fairly you judge your own past. Successful people tend think more about their successes…as should you.

-Alan

Image: Pitt pen on watercolor paper. © Quinn McDonald

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